Finding love – it’s one of the most common quests among humans. We all crave that special connection with another person, but relationships are often difficult to navigate and cultivate. The fact is that few people put as much thought, planning and effort into finding the right partner to love as they do in planning their careers – but the steps to finding ideal love relationships aren’t much different than the steps one uses in cultivating new business relationships. If you’re tired of relationships that just don’t work for you and want to find true and lasting love, you need to position yourself to find the love you’re seeking.
Finding the Right Person
If you’re looking for a new car, do you shop at the grocery store? Of course not – grocery stores don’t sell cars. If you want to buy a Porsche, would you shop at a Ford dealer? Again, of course you wouldn’t. You’d shop at a dealer who typically sells high-end foreign luxury cars. It’s easy to see that when you’re shopping around for a material object, but most people shy away from employing the same logic to finding the right partner for their relationships. They look for love in singles bars and at dances or through dating services without considering whether the kind of person with whom they want to spend their lives would frequent those kinds of places.
In other words, if you want to find a life partner who values the same things that you do, you’ll find them in places where those values are important and on display. If you want a partner who shares your faith, become more involved in social and other events sponsored by your church. If you want a partner who shares your love of travel, attend travel seminars or take language classes. You’ll find the person who most fits into your life by living the life you want to share with a partner.
Be the Person You Want to Love
Likewise, you need to be the kind of person that will be attractive to the kind of partner you want to attract. Think carefully about the qualities that you find important in a lifelong partner and about the qualities that person looks for in relationships, then work hard at being the kind of person that is worthy of being loved by that kind of person. If you want respect, be respectful. If you’re looking for honesty in your relationship, be honest in everything you do.
Building relationships, especially lifelong relationships based in love, requires at least as much attention and work as you’d put into building your career. Love is all around, but it won’t show itself until you do the work you need to do to cultivate it in your life.
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