Positioning Yourself to Find Love in the New Year

Finding love – it’s one of the most common quests among humans. We all crave that special connection with another person, but relationships are often difficult to navigate and cultivate. The fact is that few people put as much thought, planning and effort into finding the right partner to love as they do in planning their careers – but the steps to finding ideal love relationships aren’t much different than the steps one uses in cultivating new business relationships. If you’re tired of relationships that just don’t work for you and want to find true and lasting love, you need to position yourself to find the love you’re seeking.

Finding the Right Person

If you’re looking for a new car, do you shop at the grocery store? Of course not – grocery stores don’t sell cars. If you want to buy a Porsche, would you shop at a Ford dealer? Again, of course you wouldn’t. You’d shop at a dealer who typically sells high-end foreign luxury cars. It’s easy to see that when you’re shopping around for a material object, but most people shy away from employing the same logic to finding the right partner for their relationships. They look for love in singles bars and at dances or through dating services without considering whether the kind of person with whom they want to spend their lives would frequent those kinds of places.

In other words, if you want to find a life partner who values the same things that you do, you’ll find them in places where those values are important and on display. If you want a partner who shares your faith, become more involved in social and other events sponsored by your church. If you want a partner who shares your love of travel, attend travel seminars or take language classes. You’ll find the person who most fits into your life by living the life you want to share with a partner.

Be the Person You Want to Love

Likewise, you need to be the kind of person that will be attractive to the kind of partner you want to attract. Think carefully about the qualities that you find important in a lifelong partner and about the qualities that person looks for in relationships, then work hard at being the kind of person that is worthy of being loved by that kind of person. If you want respect, be respectful. If you’re looking for honesty in your relationship, be honest in everything you do.

Building relationships, especially lifelong relationships based in love, requires at least as much attention and work as you’d put into building your career. Love is all around, but it won’t show itself until you do the work you need to do to cultivate it in your life.

Resolve to Find Love in the New Year

Are you ready to for love to enter your life? Have you tried to build relationships only to have them fail time after time after time? There’s an old saying in the business world that applies equally to any other endeavor, including love and relationships – if you keep ending up in the wrong place, try using a different map. If you’re ready to make this the year that you find true, lasting love, you can start by redefining your search and creating a road map that will lead you directly to the true love you’ve been looking for all your life.

A Road Map to Love

When you give someone directions to get to your home, you generally give them a list of landmarks that will help them identify the right road. There are landmarks on the road to true love as well, but many people are looking for the wrong landmarks. They think they’re getting close when they find physical attraction or common interests, but they miss the most obvious and necessary parts of a real, long-lasting relationship. Whether you’re trying to improve an existing relationship or build a new one, these four keys are essential to making sure that you’re on the right road to your destination.

Trust

Trust is the major cornerstone of every relationship in your life. If you want to attract trust, you have to give trust – and you have to be trustworthy. You can’t just be trustworthy in the big things, though. It’s not enough to ask the object of your affection to simply believe that you will be there when you’re needed. You must practice being there.

Honesty

The quickest way to destroy relationships is with dishonesty. Dishonesty destroys trust and wipes away relationships more quickly than almost any other trait. Start by being honest with yourself. Once you recognize truth, it’s far easier to reflect that truth to others, and that reflection is what others will see and be attracted by.

Faith

Your ability to believe is a measure of your ability to love. Faith – in yourself, in your God and in the world – are a vital part of building a relationship based on true love. If you cannot believe in something greater than yourself, it will be almost impossible to trust in love and in your partner.

Respect

The Golden Rule – to treat others as you would have them treat you – is the definition of respect. You cannot expect someone to love you if you do not offer them respect and treat them as you want them to treat you. When you show your respect in actions and words, you provide the seeds that help love grow.

It’s a new year – a time when many people look forward to rebuilding their lives in a fresh, attractive way. Make this the year that you resolve to attract love into your life – and finally find the lasting love you’ve been looking for all your life.