Building a new relationship built on trust and love isn’t easy, but it’s a goal well worth pursuing. Whether you’re trying to revive the love in your current relationship or looking for your true love, there is one simple quality that will enhance and expand the love in your relationships – trust. It’s difficult to love someone if you can’t trust them – and it’s difficult for someone to love you if you break faith with them and are not trustworthy. While you can’t control another person’s actions, you can build and enhance trust in your relationships by the things that you do and the ways that you act. These five surprising things are ways to build the bank of trust on which your relationships are based.
Be Punctual
Being on time for appointments may seem to have little to do with love, but it’s a surprising cornerstone of trust. When you’re consistently on time for dates, dinner and telephone calls, you are establishing yourself as someone who can be trusted to be there when you say you will be – and that’s a vital element of trust. If you say you’ll be there at 7, be there at 7. It’s respectful and caring.
Show Honesty in Little Things
If you don’t tell the truth about little things, how can you be expected to be honest about important things? When your lover catches you in a lie about even the most innocuous things, it calls everything you say into question. And if you feel that you can’t be honest about something because of the reaction the truth will cause, it’s a strong suggestion to take another look at the relationship and the person with whom you’re involved.
Be Open About Your Life
Romance novels may suggest that women are entranced by mysterious strangers, but it’s impossible to build a love relationship based on a mystery. Many men and women hide secrets in their past out of fear that others will pass judgment on them and pass them by. When you do that, you build a wall around part of your life – and risk that somehow, your lover will learn your secret from someone else. When that happens, it can cast your entire relationship into doubt. Be honest about your past, your family, your work and other important elements of your life.
Be Respectful of Yourself
Before you can respect anyone else, you must learn to respect yourself and understand that you and your love are precious gifts. That doesn’t mean that you should be arrogant or think you are better than others. It simply means that you should expect others to treat you with respect, and expect yourself to return that respect to them.
Listen When Others Speak to You
Listening is one of the most important love skills to master. It’s not a matter of learning “active listening tricks” or finding ways to encourage communication, though those can help facilitate communication. It’s a matter of truly, honestly and openly listening when another person speaks to you so that you can hear their expectations, their needs and their desires. Listening can not only tell you how to show your love to another person, it can also help you identify whether this person is the right person for you.
Finding true love isn’t easy, but being part of a loving, trusting relationship is more than worth the work you put into it. When you build trust between yourself and your lover, you’ll be amazed at how your relationship deepens and becomes more satisfying.
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